Tuesday, January 14, 2014

NaBloPoMo: Ten

Prompt ten: Marge Piercy said: "A strong woman is a woman determined to do something others are determined not be done." Tell us about a time when you did what couldn't be done.

Along with yesterday's post about my dad's passing, some of the things I handle after his death I never imagined I would ever, could ever, do... but I did them.

I planned most of his funeral. I contacted his friends to deliver the news. I spoke to a medical examiner to understand more about his cause of death. I accompanied my mom to many appointments to make sure she could get his final affairs in order. I watched as my husband and brother took on the momentous task of going through daddy's belongings because my mom and I just couldn't do it. I did whatever was necessary because my mom couldn't do a lot of it, and what she needed to do, she needed someone with her.

As life began to turn to a new normal, I changed in a lot of ways. Even my husband noticed a change in me when daddy passed. I became more aggressive about getting things done and not taking baloney from others. I try my best to live in the now because it can literally be taken away from you in an instant. I struggle with my relationship with God, but I don't give up on that relationship because He doesn't give up on me. I feel stronger and weaker for having been through that summer of my dad's passing.

But here I am working on year 7 of our marriage and just a few weeks away from meeting our daughter. I'm in a job that I love, back in school to further my career, and doing all that I can to savor this precious life that I have been given. One thing that daddy's death taught me is that you have to go for whatever it is that makes you happy. His life was an incredible example of what he loved, and I hope I can emulate his example for my family.

4 comments:

  1. I haven't been commenting lately, but I wanted to tell you that I've really enjoyed getting to know you better through these posts. Hugs. :) So excited for you, hubby, and your daughter on the way!

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    1. It's good to hear from you, Deena! Hope you're doing well! :)

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  2. I'm always amazed at how much our lives have paralleled and so grateful for our friendship. We had not met when your dad passed so I don't know what you were like before your dad passed. I do have to say that the Olivia I know today is a strong woman and takes advantage of the wonderful moments life is giving her day to day. You don't take those good moments for granted and you look for good even when things seem bad. I didn't know the previous Olivia but I love the Olivia I know today. :)

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    1. I'm glad you love me, flaws and all. :)

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